WANTED: Words of Wisdom and/or Sillyness

How often are you asked for your opinion, your sage advice on anything? Well, consider this one of those times. I must compose a letter to my daughter. She is a senior in college.  This letter will be read to her and about 300 of her closest friends during a meeting. Have been done this road before but a form letter would be, well, in bad form.

What advice would you offer to a 21-year-old woman who is graduating from a four-year vacation and preparing to enter the real world? DON’T say graduate school as the money tree is bare. I can say the basics like:

  • Don’t go to an interview when you are drunk.
  • Do get a job that pays US currency.
  • No more spring break.
  • Please return all my clothes, shoes, and jewelry.

But all those are so in-your-face real. So I need your help, folks. Knowing what you do, no matter what age, what advice would you offer her?

Thank you in advance. If you suggest securing employment in the sex trade or offer up, “Good things come to those who wait!”, well … just don’t.


37 thoughts on “WANTED: Words of Wisdom and/or Sillyness

  1. Be true to yourself and trust your instincts – don’t just go with the crowd because it’s what the crowd is doing.

  2. Perfecto, Miss Molly, very good advice, merci 🙂

  3. Hi Izzie:
    Speaking as the mother of a kid who went crazy with credit cards, I would advise that if she does get one, to get only ONE and pay it off every month without fail!

    P.S. She will not die if she doesn’t have the latest designer clothing/shoes!

  4. Hey Wendy! Great tips. She won’t worry herself about clothes – she has my closet … and dresses … and jewelry … and purses. Maybe not, though, as she athisverymoment plans to live in Austin or Southern California. Whatev.

  5. Spend money on a good can opener.
    Always speak English, even when those around you speak dictionary.
    Say” I don’t know” rather than fudge it.
    Rich people aren’t necessarily rich. Poor people aren’t necessarily poor.
    It is funny. You’re just not looking hard enough.

  6. Oh, I don’t have a clue, izzie. Tell her to never go to bed without taking her make up off, that tattoos are never a good idea and that she should get a yearly mammogram and pap-smear?

    • Thanks, cin – she never goes to bed w/o taking her “face” off already (good), if she gets a tat I better never see it, and she has her “lady” doctor but she really must get the mam, considering fam history – meh!

  7. I’m going to get all sentimental, but maybe slow down, take a breath. When I graduated, it was nice to know that my parents’ home was still mine as well until I was ready to make my own.

  8. I’m not one on giving advice, but I will say that if she hasn’t already, now is the time to learn the stuff they don’t teach you in school: how to change a tire, how to check your oil, how to unclog a drain, how to use a power drill, etc . . . The “real life” skills that no one thinks to learn until it’s too late.

    • We are def on the same wavelength here – I’ve told both girls that they cannot even think about getting married until they have supported themselves, lived on their own paying rent themselves, and they have to make a major purchase on their own. Hopefully that – with your tips – will have them better prepared. Power drill – I love mine. 🙂

  9. I hate to use a damn cliche’ from a song, but ever since I heard the song, I have had the thought stuck in my head….”Live like you were Dying” Enjoy everything in life cause you don’t know when your life may end. I’ve been trying to get my idiot brain to realize that for years. Catch ya when I get back! 🙂

  10. If you can’t pay cash, don’t buy it. (The only exceptions: A car and a house.)

    If you don’t know how to cook, learn.

    Get a guide to basic home repairs and start building a tool collection, starting with a hammer, a level and a set of screwdrivers.

    Don’t take your car to the dealership for repairs or maintenance unless it’s been recalled.

  11. Trust your instincts and never give up a personal dream just to make another person feel more comfortable.
    Don’t rush into a relationship.
    Embrace change, don’t feel that you have to figure it all out today. Take your time.
    And, by all means use birth control and protection!

  12. Yes! Walker, these are perfect. BC already taken care of but I most certainly will list the others. Merci.

  13. I find that few people take advice. They want to figure stuff out for themselves and make their own mistakes. I’m not saying this isn’t all true and amazing, I’m just saying she may not be ready to hear it.

    Then again, she might read it now, and it will sink in when it sinks in. 🙂

  14. I am not good at giving advice…so hopefully this is relevant. Although this is hard to do, try not to make hasty assumptions about other people. At work, don’t gossip…it’s tempting sometimes, but just don’t. In life, do not develop an entitlement complex. Good luck! 🙂

  15. Writerwoman61 stole my thunder–never dig yourself into a debt hole. It is an awful predicament.

    And congrats to your daughter as well.

  16. As a 22 year old myself,

    1. No matter how much your family will piss you off they will always be there for you.

    2. Don’t settle down too quickly-there’s a whole world to see, places to explore, people to meet, and things to experience.

    3. It’s ok to be impulsive somtimes: dance in the rain, see a broadway show, take a weekend off and drive-somewhere anywhere.

    4. It’s also ok to say ‘No’ to yourself. You won’t die.

    5. It’s ok if you don’t know: what you’re doing with your life, where you’re going to live, what you’re doing next month, next week, etc. This is the time to find out-take your time!

    I know the last three may contradict themselves but if applied correctly they don’t 😉

  17. My daughter graduated this past May, so I can sympathize with the advice thing. Ever since she was in middle school, I told her there were three things I wanted for her – well, more than three but these were the first to come to my mind and I made them stick. 1) Love God. 2) Get a good education so you’ll be able to support yourself and not have to depend solely on your future spouse. 3)Learn to drive a stick-shift… you never know what emergency may befall you that you’ll need to use it.

    So far, she’s two for three. She still hasn’t learned to drive stick shift…

  18. Excellent advice so far. Maybe just tell her to be ready for tough times and do whatever it takes to ensure they don’t happen. It might also be nice for her to not lose momentum.

    Even though I’m still regularly asked for advice, I’m just going to avoid giving it and hope I can just cheer that person up instead.

  19. I’d say ‘don’t ever say things to yourself that you wouldn’t want a five-year-old you to hear… if you’re saying ‘I’m too fat’, ‘I’m not clever enough’ – the five year old you would cry and be upset if you told them they weren’t pretty or clever. If you can look after the five-year old you, and be kind to them, then you’ll always be strong.

    We’d tell a five-year old they were brave and wonderful, that we are proud of them, that they tried hard, that they can make mistakes. We should tell ourselves these things too.

    I’d also say ‘remember that most things will always work out how it’s supposed to be in the end’

    Depend on yourself. If you can depend on yourself, then you’ll never NEED anybody, and that will make you confident and strong and brave. Education is the one way you can make yourself strong, despite everything. Confidence is the other way you will succeed in life. A little chutzpah never did anyone any harm.

  20. Don’t forget to play!
    Steamy hot baths can sometimes fix everything.
    Sometimes when you’re sick you actually need to call in sick and then call your mom.
    Duct tape really is amazing stuff and now comes in mutiple colors.
    Learn how to DIY and then let someone else do it.
    Every once in a while when you just want to scream, go somewhere appropriate and scream.

  21. Hey Crazy … glad I haven’t written letter yet because I love your input! Thank you for stopping by. Headed to your spot now. 🙂

  22. I hope I’m not too late with this comment. I would tell her what I told my two daughters, “Explore your passions, develope your talents, and then go out there and change your world!” I wish your daughter the best!

  23. Probably too late, but still:

    Never put off anything that takes 5 minutes or less.
    If someone offers you a breath mint, TAKE it. And say thank you.
    Remember that everything ends, it’s just a matter of when, and how. So you can stop worrying about the “IF” it will end, and focus on the how. Gracefully, or not? It’s your choice.
    Will what you’re stressing over matter in 5 years? If yes, deal with it. If no, set your timer for 5 minutes, wallow in it & worry like hell, then DING, let it go and move on.


    geauxgirl out.

  24. Ding! So love the breath mint thing – hahahaha! Love all of this! You’re not too late … was going to write it yesterday when all the drama knocked me off course. 🙂

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