Free Falling

Free falling. There are those times when you find yourself in a free fall. Gravity, disguised as circumstances, exhaustion, or emotions, just knocks your feet right out from under you. And you are free falling.

It’s not so much about the fall, itself, but that you stop it. This is NOT the time to go with the flow.

Catastrophizing, whining, blaming … these are not options but negative motivators (oxymoron?) that build nasty momentum. So, how do you stop the fall?

First, reach out. Grab some strong arms to hug you, seek loving ears to listen.

My very wise friend, Renee, would say, “Shift“. Look at what “pushed” you, shift your perceptions, and find the lesson. Emotions are fickle, not to be trusted”. Ms. Shay would say, “It’s all about will – your will, your choice – and you have abundant, positive choices.”

And then, the rest is up to me … or you. It always is. When I am in a free fall, it is often precipitated by control. Me trying to control anything, everything. And when anything, everything feels like I am herding cats, “tilting at windmills”, and bouncing off the same brick wall repeatedly, I know to stop. Just stop and listen.

Then, and only then, I hear Renee and Ms. Shay. And the Big Voice saying, “You are NOT on a crazy train that’s going off the rails. You didn’t buy that ticket. Simmer down.” And I’m no longer falling, but standing up, sorta straight. And remembering verses that are warm and fuzzy at the very least – to me:

“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls. Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find relief and ease and refreshment and blessed quiet for your souls. For My yoke is useful – not harsh, hard, sharp, or pressing, but comfortable, gracious, and pleasant, and My burden is light and easily borne.” (Matthew 11:28-30, Amplified Bible)

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? (Mary Oliver)

Then I know that comfort, so momentarily elusive, will come.

And I begin again.

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*Big Voice would not be Ozzy Osbourne. But I do like “Crazy Train

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8 thoughts on “Free Falling

  1. Great post. The knowledge that we all have the power to shift our perceptions is so liberating. It opens up possibility, rather than shutting it down. When I go into a tailspin over something (and I do go into tailspins–I’m human), I can’t stay there long, because now I see what I’m doing. I spin (because that is my choice), laugh or recognize it for what it is, then ask myself a question: If I were coming from love instead of fear (read that as anger/frustration/anything negative), how would I react then? For me, that’s the moment when everything shifts. Wisdom and possibility reside in love. Nothing resides in fear except more fear.

  2. Crazy Train is my theme song. Seriously. The boys and I play in the car. My youngest even requests it. I’m a good Mom. (smile) And yes – I begin again. (I liked that.)

  3. Hmmm there’s some beautiful imagery in there. I like the way you captured the downward spiral we all feel at some time(ssss) in our lives 🙂
    My ‘reach-out’ sometimes involves a bottle of wine, a friend, and hours of gossip.
    Who am I kidding? Make that a few bottles 🙂

    • Hey Casey – thanks for coming by! I love your “time(ssss) – it doesn’t happen just once, damn it! I’m coming to your house next time – sounds like a lot more fun!

  4. Chin up, young person. Things will level out.

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